18-year-old invites friend for a sleepover, then refuses to let her in when she shows up at 4 am, entitled friend throws a tantrum: ‘I decided to completely cut her off’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Aug 8, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

As much as you love your friends, it is natural to feel uncomfortable when they ask you to cover for them in front of their parents. I would know, I used to do it a lot for my best friend in high school.

To her defense, her parents were terribly strict; they quite literally made it impossible for her to have a life. So all her friends had to step in and help her out in any way possible, including lying to them about her whereabouts. When we were 16, she got a boyfriend, and she had to keep him a complete secret to keep her parents from finding out. Only her closest friends knew, and we literally had to be her alibi every time she went on a date and needed a cover story.

They broke up after two years of dating, and her parents never found out.

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  • As her best friend, it wasn't easy to lie to an adult to keep her out of trouble, but I did what I had to do.

    Can that be said about the best friends in the story below? Probably not, especially after one friend told the other's parents about what is going on with her. Keep scrolling to read the full tale.

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    AITA for refusing to let my friend into my house after she was over 6 hours late?

    My best friend (18F) and I (18F) were supposed to go to a car show pretty early tomorrow morning. She was going to sleep over at my house since I live like
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    10 minutes from it while she's like 30 minutes away. We called at around 5pm and she said that she'd be over by 9pm at the latest because she was going to
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    a car/motorcycle meet. I was totally fine with this because I don't go to those meets because of the dangerousness of them and the not so legal
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    things that go on during them. At around 7pm, I texted asking for an update to which I got no reply. A little extra backstory: she
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    bought a motorcycle three days ago without telling her parents, has no license, permit, insurance, plate, or registration, and already got into an
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    accident the first day of owning it (totally her fault). She was arrested but released pretty fast. This is her third time she's had to go to court for
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    vehicle violations and her parents still have no clue. Anyways, the plan was that she'd drop off her bike somewhere, grab her car, and then come over
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    by 9pm, but I knew she was just going to bring her bike to my place anyway. I texted every hour to check in, still no response (I'm truly just
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    terrified for her safety.) My parents, who aren't super strict but they're firm, said that by 10:30pm she couldn't stay over anymore because it was
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    too late, they were heading to bed, and they didn't want an illegal bike in their driveway or issues with the HOA for loud noises at night. (They're
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    crazy about noises past 9pm because we live in a neighborhood with a good amount of seniors.)
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    I apologized and explained everything to her through text on three different platforms. She never fully opened any of my messages (half swiped), but was active
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    and posting. At like 3:45am, my parents woke me up telling me that she was outside revving her bike in our driveway?? We all stayed quiet, pretending to be asleep.
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    Then she started banging oddly loudly on the door.l still didn't let her in. At around 4am she finally left. She texted me back calling me the "biggest ah_le" and "worst friend
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    ever." I haven't responded. I still planned to apologize because she's one of my only real friends, or so I thought, until she started posting on TikTok and Instagram about how
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    awful and terrible I was. I honestly just felt so disrespected and disgusted at her disregard of respect for me and my family.
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    AITA for not letting her use me as a place to crash and hide her real life from her parents? What do I even do from here?
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    EDIT: as per everyone's advice, I ended up telling her parents everything that was going on and what had happened. They
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    ended up texting me first because they saw that her location was no longer at my house. I am deciding to completely cut her off, while we've been through
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    a lot together, I cannot risk my own safety or sanity by continuing to entertain her irresponsible behavior. I'm tired of acting like her mom. Thank you to everyone for your advice!
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    Lizm3 Your friend is a nightmare. Totally unreasonable. Personally I'd cut her off and never speak to her again, she sounds totally self absorbed. NTA.
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    1misswrite Do not apologize. She acted like an entitled a hole. This is a "friendship" that you are better without. NTA
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    CyberWolf_888 NTA she knew the rules and disregarded them anyway. You and your family held firm on your boundary. You went above and beyond to try and tell her in 3 different ways.
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    You can't set yourself on fire to keep her warm. If she can't see how these are the consequences of her own actions, it might be time to reevaluate how healthy this friendship is.
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